What have you noticed in the dating scene when it comes to good guys vs. bad guys?

Well, it might seem that good guys come last, but then again maybe all guys just think they are the good ones. I don’ think you can generalize and say one thing or another. There are many factors that makes one attractive to the opposite sex. I don’t think good guys carry their hearts out on a sleeve. I think the difference of getting the girl or not depends on confidence and timing. Sometimes it is just not in your stars to be with someone.

Can a girl avoid a bad boy, or is the trap set by bad boys too deceptive?

Yes and no, depending on how far and how willing the “bad boy” is going to push the limits of manipulation and the girl herself. Lets face it, dating is manipulation. You never are really showing your true self. You show the best qualities of yourself. The qualities you want and think make you look like a better mate than others. You can avoid traps and games if you remove emotion, and replace it with logic and reasoning. You cannot allow yourself to tolerate mens stupidness and childish behaviour. (Here is a secret, every guy thinks with their little amigo, it just happens some think with it more often than others, and finding a good guy is finding one that thinks less with it.) What women can do, but first a story- I have the privilege of knowing some girls at UT, who are very attractive, who get a lot of attention from guys but don’t get hit on very often. It is because they use higher thought processes than just “I like him,” or “he is so cute,” to weed out losers. “Bad boys” think they are witches with a b, but I happen to think that you can’t approach girls like these unless you are quality yourself. Try to emulate this!

Do good guys “go bad” in a sense to win over girls?

Not necessarily, it might or might not turn out that way. You can’t say what direction someone will take. Too many factors and variables to say how past experiences will change someone to preform in the future. You can never determine how a situation can change someone, only the person to whom the situation has occurred to.

Why do you think that girls fall for the bad boy tricks?

Evolution, sadly. I once had the luck to talk to an evolutionary psychologist at UT. She said “think about it, why were cave men successful in mating, they would club the the male with the most resources, show that to cave women that they could provide and have more opportunity to mate.” So we might just be fighting our own biology.

Who’s to say, I am not a girl. But I can only imagine that falling for these tricks have to do with a number of different variables. People nowadays want to have everything now, immediate, that they are willing to believe some slick talker. Someone who makes them feel good about themselves.

Are girls at fault in this game?

Ok and this is what made me write this whole thing. Mitesh and Dahnish, you two are two very sad individuals. You statements show that you two are little boys and not men.

Who’s to blame? My two biggest culprits pop culture and BOTH SEXES. NOT JUST GIRLS.

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(Not just girls, not just boys, but both girls and boys are to blame. Shock, maybe, but lets face it. A culture devoted to finding that one person based on what, attraction first and personality second. People are so focused on finding that special person, but if that person is a square peg and you need to fit it into a circular opening in. Well keep trying it is not going to happen. You can’t make people fit. It is about finding that person that compliments you.)

Ok, Dahnish if you are 25 and blame girls on bad behaviour you are blind my friend. What do groups of guys do when we talk about girls? We usually degrade them down to body parts and what we want to do to them. It is a destructive cycle of bad behaviour that exists with both men and women. Unless you are a gentleman, who has positive thoughts and follow them up with positive actions, don’t hate on girls. And for girls, who hold themselves up to as ladies, don’t blame boys. Unless we stop playing games and tricks with each other, how are we expected to having meaningful connections with other people? Do good guys finish last, maybe, but good girls do too.