Reality of the Heart

by Farah Mithani – Houston Baptist University

Butterflies and giggles.

Right before your first kiss, the first time he holds your hand and doesn’t want to let go, whispering your name making you feel like a princess.  These moments are the ones I cherish.  Love grows stronger within the eyes, straight to your soul.  But, how will you know if he is the one.

I want to be with the one that makes me laugh.  I want to be with the one that knows exactly who I am.  He knows me better than I know myself.  The most important thing in my opinion is that he needs to love you for who you are.  You cannot just pick any guy, change him into what you want him to be, and fall in love.  The relationship you have with yourself comes first.  Love yourself, and others will love you.  If they don’t, then who needs them?

Yet, everyone makes mistakes. Shakespeare says in The Merchant of Venice, “But love is blind, and lovers cannot see the pretty follies that themselves commit.”  Finding your true love becomes a trial and error game.  Some are lucky to hit a homerun at their first shot, but most of us need to keep swinging until we find the right team.  Mistakes are meant to be, because without them we wouldn’t have fate or serendipity.

The hardest part in finding the perfect relationship is your parents’ approval.   They will always want what is best for you.  No one will be perfect in your parents’ eyes, except you.  As a typical desi girl, this comes with a lot of struggle and communication conflicts.  Most of us live in the modern days, but our parents are stuck in their old fashion ways.

Heartbreaks and warfare may occur, but in the end your parents will always love you.

Love is poetically delicate.  Treat it with care, honesty, and soul.