12 Holiday Gifts for Self-Care, Health and Wellness

Let’s face it. 2019 had its ups and downs. During the holiday season, we hope to gather around with family and friends, not only to have amazing meals and some real quality time but also, to de-stress and relax! It’s a time to reflect, unwind, have fun, and just…feel loved. We look forward to a new year, a clean slate, and a chance to start healthy habits. What better way to do so than start thinking about it before the time comes for jotting down our resolutions? As the end of the year is quickly approaching, end it on a calming and comforting note. And, help others start 2020 on that note by being inspired by our list of 10 holiday gifts for health and wellness…all within a click of a button.

[Read Related: 8 Fun and Affordable Holiday Gifts That Won’t Break the Bank]

1. Aavrani

Here’s your one-stop-shop for all things natural skincare. Aavrani takes pride in catering to “embrace deeper beauty” and “centering the mind, body, and spirit” through India’s all-natural skincare ritual. Whether it be glowing skin or under-eye care, Aavrani has got you covered! You can choose the ‘Discovery Ritual Set’ which is $85, the ‘Aavrani Ritual Set’ priced at $200, or choose individual products, such as serums and exfoliators. Don’t know which of the amazing products to choose from? Make it easy for yourself and choose to give a gift card!

 

View this post on Instagram

 

A post shared by aavrani (@aavrani) on

2. Scrumptious Wicks

Holiday gifts almost always include candles. Who doesn’t love sweet/bakery scents right in your living room? Or, how about soothing lavender lighting in your bedroom after a long day at work? What about a candle with a ‘Mango Lassi’ scent? Scrumptious Wicks has the ultimate collection of scents and candles, especially for those who love desi-inspired scents, such as saffron, mango lassi, and even Indian monsoon. They range from $10-$20 per scent. Sniff them out!

 

View this post on Instagram

 

A post shared by Scrumptious Wicks (@scrumptiouswicks) on

3. Suja

We all know someone who wants to try juicing or incorporate some sort of healthy components into their eating and drinking habits. Suja has organic, non-GMO, cold-pressed juices with plant-powered ingredients. Hear this, they even have energy, digestion, focus, and immunity shots! In addition, be sure to check out their 3-day cleanses and kombuchas. The gift of juices might seem unique, but it is a definite YES. Buy a pack or pack(s) and have it shipped to a dear one. Trust me, they will be making a lifestyle change in 2020. And, maybe try some of their products out for yourself!

 

View this post on Instagram

 

A post shared by Suja Organic (@lovesuja) on

4. Chetna’s Healthy Indian: Everyday Family Meals

Thinking about what to get your parents? Or, someone who loves cooking desi food, but just doesn’t have the time? Make healthy cooking and eating easier for them in the new year. Check out Chetna’s Healthy Indian: Everyday Family Meals…effortlessly good for you. This cookbook was published recently and has great reviews. There are 80 quick, and delicious Indian recipes that you can get right on Amazon!

 

View this post on Instagram

 

A post shared by Chetna Makan (@chetnamakan) on

5. SodaStream

Okay, you have probably seen this in a YouTube Ad. But, I can vouch for this. I have been cutting out sodas in 2019 and hope to continue to do so in 2020 and beyond. Soda water/sparkling water is a great alternative for me whenever I go out. SodaStream definitely makes it much easier to skip soda at home as well. It’s basically like having filtered water but with bursting flavors!

 

View this post on Instagram

 

A post shared by SodaStream (@sodastream) on

6. HUM Nutrition Gummies

One vitamin brand that I have been hearing a lot of lately is HUM. And, I believe, after hearing a lot of reviews from close friends and trying it out myself, the HUM Nutrition Glow Sweet Glow Gummies is one of the best gifts you can give yourself or your family and friends! The quality is amazing and it’s VEGAN! Get them hooked on hydrating their skin this holiday season. Sixty gummies for $20-25, plus there are deals on holiday gifts going on right now!

 

View this post on Instagram

 

A post shared by HUM Nutrition (@humnutrition) on

7. Live Maiya Yoga Mats

We have mentioned this on our holiday gift list before, but we cannot help it. A Live Maiya yoga mat is the perfect gift you can give to someone to tap his or her way into a healthier lifestyle. Live Maiya provides luxury, Indian-American Yoga Mats that are made to last! Choose from styles, like Padma (Lotus), Mayura (Peacock), and Hamsa (Evil Eye).

 

View this post on Instagram

 

A post shared by Live Maiya (@livemaiya) on

8. Slip for Beauty Sleep Slipsilk Pure Silk Pillowcase

Many won’t typically invest in a pillowcase for $85, but it’s so worth it. That’s why it is such a great gift! What’s so great and unique about mulberry silk? You can hear beauty influencers talking about it and how such silk protects your hair and skin, and even reduces acne and split ends that may be triggered by the traditional pillowcases you might be using. Give the gift of luxurious hair this holiday season and learn more about it!

 

View this post on Instagram

 

A post shared by Sophie (@britbeautyinsydney) on

9. Vitruvi Quiet Time Diffuser Set

Raise your hand if you had a hectic 2019 and now just need some quiet, downtime in the upcoming year? Me. Me. Me! This one is an investment I will be making for myself because getting some quiet “me” time is essential for one’s mental and physical health. You add 10-20 drops of Quiet blend to your stone diffuser, which is a calming floral essential oil, and just choose a time setting! With reviews, such as, “relaxing, makes a house a home!” I am excited to incorporate it into my life. Definitely a must-have.

 

View this post on Instagram

 

A post shared by vitruvi (@vitruvi) on

10. Aquis Hair Towels

Like the pillow-case scenario, we have hair towels on this list as well. These are $30 and available online and in-stores, like Ulta. The “Rapid Dry Hair Towels” are well worth it and tested. It’s not only about drying your hair, these towels aid in repairing damaged hair too!

 

View this post on Instagram

 

A post shared by AQUIS Hair (@aquishair) on

11. BollyX Gift cards

What’s better than giving someone a gym membership as a gift? Help your friends and family (and yourself!) keep up with the new year’s resolutions right off the bat, in Bollywood style! While physical gift cards are not available, you can print them out and use them in Boston or NYC locations! This one has to be one of my favorite holiday gifts yet!

 

View this post on Instagram

 

A post shared by BollyX – The Bollywood Workout (@bollyxfitness) on

12. Weighted Blanket 

Proven to help with anxiety, a weighted blanket is just the right present for the special someone who’s in need of rest and relaxation by the fireplace this holiday season.

 

View this post on Instagram

 

A post shared by Chapters Indigo (@indigo) on

This list of health and wellness holiday gifts can go on and on, but it should get you thinking about what’s most important- health and wellness! And, never forget how important it is to love and care for yourself too! So, be sure to stock up on some of these goodies for yourselves! End the year strong and start the new year even stronger!

Avatar photo
By Shezda Afrin

Shezda Afrin is an aspiring physician from Philadelphia, Pennsylvania. At the age of four, it was quite normal of her … Read more ›

Painful Sex is More Common Than you Think

Close up on couple having intimacy moments

Ten to 28% of the world’s population of women experience painful sex. Keep in mind, that this is just what is reported. As embarrassing and as vulnerable as you may feel, you are absolutely not alone. The good news is that in addition to your traditional medical care to treat painful sex (also known as dyspareunia) such as medication, injections and surgery — a conservative approach is effective and long-lasting. Conservative care ranges from pelvic floor physical therapy, chiropractic care and acupuncture which are beneficial in treating the root cause of painful sex, as well as symptoms, for long-term healing. 

Some of the signs to look out for if you experience pain are:

  1. Deep pain/burning during or after sex
    • Pain descriptors: sharp, stabbing, deep, dull, burning
  2. Vaginal Dryness
  3. Low Libido
  4. Tightening at the vaginal opening

[Read Related: 12 Beliefs About Sex That South Asians Need to Throw Out the Window]

Treatment Options 

Treatment options for painful sex such as pelvic floor physical therapy, chiropractic care and acupuncture provide a long-lasting and profound effect on the pelvic floor and address your entire physical well-being.

The pelvic floor is a layer of muscles that range from the pubic bone to the tailbone. The purpose of these muscles is to assist in bowel and bladder control, support a baby during pregnancy and contribute to sexual sensations. Just like any other muscle in your body, these pelvic floor muscles can become tight or weak which can be a contributing factor to pain.

Pelvic Floor Physical Therapy

Pelvic floor therapy can assist by strengthening and relaxing the muscles which is necessary to relieve pain during sex. 

[Read Related: My Awkward First Time at the Gyno]

Chiropractic Physician

Chiropractors can be extremely beneficial with assisting in helping relieve pain. Associated pain and discomfort can originate from the lower back and buttock muscles. Chiropractors are trained in taking a history and performing a neurological, orthopedic and soft tissue examination to identify treatment options. Deep tissue massage, skin rolling, Active Release Technique, muscle energy technique, ice, heat and electrical stimulation are just to name a few.

Acupuncture

Acupuncture can activate the human dopamine system which helps regulate hormone levels and can assist in psychological factors. Acupuncture can improve mood, decrease pain and can be vastly beneficial in managing pain and mental health symptoms. 

Ask for help

“Everyone is having pelvic pain and no one is talking about it”

  1. Start with seeing your gynecologist who you trust for a history and examination of current symptoms to rule out any other medical conditions that could be a contributing factor to symptoms. 
  2. Locate a pelvic floor physical therapist through Apta Pelvic Health or Pelvic Rehab.  
  3. Locate proper chiropractic care that is trained as a licensed acupuncturist; look for credentials such as DC, LAc. 

[Read Related: Not Your Auntie’s Tips: 5 Sex Myths Busted]

How to talk to your partner about this in a safe/healthy way

Being open with your partner about your symptoms and painful sex may seem like a difficult conversation. Intercourse should never be painful and learning when to stay ‘stop’ is important in communication. Talking about pain before, during and after sex is important also in your own health diagnosis to see if pain symptoms are improving or becoming worse. Having open communication does not only benefit your relationship but most importantly, your own health.

To experience these symptoms may seem taboo or unheard of but quite frankly, they are common in many women. Women deserve to be directed to proper healthcare. 

Disclaimer: These are based on recommendations from a board-certified chiropractic physician and licensed acupuncturist. If symptoms become new or worse, consult with a primary care physician and or OBGYN to co-manage symptoms.

 

Reference: Tayyeb M, Gupta V. Dyspareunia. [Updated 2022 Jun 11]. In: StatPearls [Internet]. Treasure Island (FL): StatPearls Publishing; 2022 Jan-. Available from: https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/books/NBK562159/

 

Photo by anushkaniroshan stock photo ID: 2071991336

jasmine bhoola
By Jasmine Bhoola

Jasmine Bhoola DC, LAC - A chiropractic physician and licensed acupuncturist in Midtown East Manhattan. A graduate from the University … Read more ›

Men, Mental Health and Vulnerability

And it is beyond the point of “let’s talk about it.”

Time for action. 

Mental health hits close to home for me. As a filmmaker, I will always share my journey with others.
– Jacquile Singh Kambo 

Men, mental health and vulnerability often aren’t talked about enough. “Embrace” is a short film that seeks to change that. It is a short animated film about Arty, a well-dressed man who has no face, gets ready for his date until he meets a younger version of himself. Arty and this younger version of himself delve into a surreal world where he learns to embrace himself. It’s him versus himself.

The façade self; the feeling of wanting to be somebody — are all things people are dealing with especially in adult life. From the dating world to the social media world — it feels like different masks are worn only to make us feel faceless, feel numb or a nobody. Too many masks could make people feel like a lost identity amidst everything that is going on in this crazy world. Out of touch, and out of life — with others and with themselves. The masks are metaphorical, the story is internally about men and mental health. Arty learns to ’embrace’ himself and to overcome his internal struggles.

Not often is it discussed that men should have a safe environment to be vulnerable, amongst others or even other men. Perhaps this is because men are wired to put on a façade when things go wrong, when things get difficult, or when true emotions are not expressed. If these are not dealt with, it can lead to other relationships, including romantic relationships. Further it becomes a cycle: suppression could lead to aggression, substance abuse or self-sabotaging behaviors and could create a toxic environment. Many of these arise from childhood trauma. Quite often childhood is repressed or ignored, and one may take their troubles along with them into adulthood. Perhaps revisiting the roots of the past can help one become successful in a better tomorrow. “Embrace” is an example of how important it is for men to embrace their past.

[Read related: Schism: A Journey to Finding My Own Identity]

Why Animation?

“Embrace” was meant to be a live-action film — until animation was considered. Seven years of re-writing, re-working, and digging down deep with the characters for the story to better fit the message at its core. Animation is an underrated avenue for a universal story that became the key pillar for “Embrace”. What many do not know about animation is that you can create a serious subject matter in a light-hearted way that is universally acceptable. Men and mental health are heavy subjects for some, but animation allows the exploration to become innovative, creative and fun. Animation allows the experimentation of entering surreal worlds.

For example, in “Embrace” Arty enters a surreal world where he has to go up against a younger version of himself — to unmask the root cause of his internal struggles and give himself the “big hug” he needs. This heart-throbbing metaphor is captured in animation that a live-action film couldn’t have captured. The freedom of animation helps tackle tough subject matters about self-love, and how we must embrace the soul, the child, the person within.

 

The Story Behind The Story 

There are many inspirations behind “Embrace”. Film noir, the silent film era, surrealism and the works of Christopher Nolan and David Lynch — the film is able to articulate something far more special. This is more than just a mental health piece for educational purposes. This is a classical narrative from beginning to end; a story of important themes and beloved characters that needed to be shared with the world.

It is not often the words mental health and men and vulnerability are discussed under the same umbrella — especially with growing hypermasculinity, and the likes of social media where facades are put up and the vulnerable parts of ourselves aren’t as expressed. It is here where the film encourages men to look within themselves, and allows them to be vulnerable to themselves. Perhaps this is an important step to better themselves on the journey to have successes (whatever success means to them), and to enlighten and lift those around them. The first step should always begin with “you.”

[Read related: Truth Be Told: Breaking the Silence on a Silent Killer, Mental Illness ]

A Call To Action

It’s tough to find places where men have access in ways of improving their mental health without feeling like a patient or a victim in the institutionalized realm. It’s tough to find places where men can talk to other men about their struggles among peer groups, educational groups, and more.

The “Let’s Talk” phase  and awareness is long overdue; it is indeed time for action. Perhaps creating seminars or group-related events and activities to help create vulnerable environments. Art or art therapy can be a great way of producing something stemming from the inner journey. Or maybe it is time to look at “sick days” as “mental health days” as well. Perhaps more can be done to simply just talk about it. It’s time to give ‘doing’ a chance to start in our close-knit communities.

Maybe if one learns to ’embrace’ themselves, only then, perhaps one can fully understand others and their pain — and have the vision of empathy for others. “Embrace” took seven years to write and a year of animation for a four-and-a-half-minute short film. The film is about self-love, embracing one’s self before one can see empathy for others. It is produced by Raman K Fenty and Jayesh Kodwani and his team, directed and written by Jacquile Singh Kambo, co- written by Sidartha Murjani and stars Jenna Berman. “Embrace” has received numerous international accolades including Best Audience choice at the Emerging Lens Cultural Film Festival of Halifax, Nova Scotia, as well as acceptances in hometown Vancouver, Canada; Goa, India and Chicago, United States.

 If you are struggling with your mental health, please call your regional crisis hotline. These are a few non-crisis mental health resources for men’s mental health. 

Feature Image Courtesy: Jacquile Singh Kambo as Embrace promo

By Jacquile Singh Kambo

Embrace team: Jacquile Singh Kambo, award winning Director and Writer for "Help Wanted" (2016) focusing on South Asian gang violence. … Read more ›

Intersections of Mental Health and South Asian Communities

By: Anise Health

The Covid-19 pandemic and feelings of uncertainty, which have been prevalent across the globe, had lasting effects on all of us. One of the more positive impacts has been on the mental health industry, particularly the normalization of mental health challenges and a more open dialogue about mental health. There have been discussions in the workplace, in schools, and even on Hinge profiles, but what about in South Asian communities? Though some progress has been made, mental health stigma is still widely prevalent among South Asians, impacting individuals’ desire and comfort in seeking help. As a result, the South Asian community reports lower rates of seeking mental health services. And of the individuals who do seek out mental health services, many face challenges in finding therapists who are equipped with a multiculturally competent skill set to understand the South Asian client’s concerns. This is why it’s important to recognize and become aware of the intersections of mental health and South Asian communities.

[Read Related: How to Find Mental Health Balance as a South Asian Millennial]

Although there is an overlap between the mental health concerns of South Asians and other communities of color, there are also unique intersections between culture and mental health that I want to bring to the forefront of this conversation. As a South Asian psychologist, who is both a researcher and clinician, I have firsthand experience examining how our individual cultural context impacts our emotional experience. If we can understand, or at least consider, how the cultural context impacts us, we can better understand ourselves and feel seen by others too. We, South Asians, are a diverse group in terms of ethnicity, language, food, religion, traditions, and so much more. So, while learning about the “state of mental health in South Asian communities” is much more complex and nuanced than what I can cover in just one editorial, I believe starting the conversation about issues that don’t get talked about nearly enough is an important first step towards destigmatization. 

What is the state of mental health in the South Asian community? 

Here are some numbers to set the stage, based on research done on South Asian communities. One in 5 South Asians currently reports experiencing mood or anxiety disorders. South Asian youth and young women, in particular, are at greater risk of having suicidal thoughts and behaviors compared to other groups. Only 24 percent of South Asians diagnosed with a substance abuse problem sought treatment. And South Asian Americans express greater stigma toward mental illness than other ethnic groups. How often are facts like these discussed? Not often. Since South Asians are often mixed in with the larger Asian American population, these issues and their nuances are rarely discussed within mental health communities. This underrepresentation can make the reality of our emotional experiences easily misunderstood and make our needs feel invisible. Relatedly, concepts like “model minority” lead outsiders to often assume that South Asians are well-adjusted. And even within the South Asian community, stigma and beliefs about the causes of mental health issues (e.g., mental illness indicates problems within the family, a sign of weakness, etc.) lead all these facts to continue being ignored.

 

View this post on Instagram

 

A post shared by Anise Health (@anisehealth)

How do mental health concerns intersect with South Asian culture?

While mental health concerns are prevalent among my clients from all backgrounds, these common concerns intersect with culture to create an individualized version of the issue that requires specialized attention and care.  

Substance abuse

Within the South Asian community, there are cultural differences in alcohol and drug use and the discussion of these topics. Alcohol is prohibited in Muslim and Jain faiths which makes open dialogue about substance abuse and its prevalence even more of a challenge within these communities. Admitting you have a problem can be hard and adding the cultural taboo can make it more difficult. 

Career stress

There is a tendency in the South Asian community to highlight that only linear careers in financially stable or ‘reputable’ fields — such as medicine, engineering or finance — will lead to success. This expectation not only impacts career decisions but also mental health, self-esteem, and self-confidence. Even if we think we are not influenced by outside factors in our career choices, how do we know that subconscious messaging is not impacting our decisions? I personally was pre-med for as long as I can remember and was apprehensive if my parents were going to accept my desire to go into psychology and mental health instead of medicine.

Caretaker stress

Caring for loved ones, who are aging or ill, is emotionally challenging for most people. What makes this stress unique for the South Asian community? South Asian communities are collectivistic and therefore rely strongly on interdependence well into adulthood. Therefore, caretaking and providing for elders is an integrated part of our lifestyles. Pursuing personal goals can sometimes be seen as selfish and therefore South Asians feel the need to sacrifice personal desires. This can make setting boundaries in relationships or making decisions focused on one’s own needs especially difficult and not as straightforward as may be suggested by Western psychotherapy interventions. 

Relationship stress

Romantic relationships can be especially stressful for South Asians because of the need to navigate between one’s own desires and family expectations. Older generations pass down messages that people should focus on their careers instead of dating, which can lead to not dating or secret dating and youth navigating romantic relationships on their own. Then, suddenly, the conversation shifts to the need to get married by a certain age, which seems especially difficult when you have not been allowed to date or when it is not something you want in your 20s. South Asians may also experience family expectations about their partner being from the same ethnic/religious background, working in a specific industry, or having a specific family background. These family or cultural expectations and issues also impact the LGBTQI+ South Asian community and South Asians often feel the need to sacrifice personal desires for the expectations that their families or deep-rooted social norms have set for them. 

Emotional Awareness 

Being able to communicate the complexity of our emotional experience is especially challenging when being emotional is considered a weakness. This cultural sentiment further perpetuates emotional suppression and increases the barrier to seeking support. Also, South Asian languages have limited vocabulary to describe mental health and the emotions involved. It is not only challenging to identify our emotions, but it is difficult to communicate the complexity due to the lack of words in South Asian languages to describe those emotions. Let’s take the word, “gussa,” which means “angry” in Hindi. The only way to explain the level of anger you are feeling is to describe the full situation. While in English, you can use variations of the word “anger,” such as “annoyed” or “furious” to describe the emotions with more nuance. 

Body image

Culture is integrated in small and big ways into how South Asians experience their body. It can be common for family members, especially older women or “aunties,” to comment on one’s body weight in direct ways like telling someone they have gotten fat or thin. There are also unspoken rules about food that impact one’s relationship with food and potentially overeating, including “it is rude to not finish all the food on your plate,” or if you don’t go up for seconds that means you didn’t like the food. Research has also found South Asian women in particular often struggle with the pressure to conform to Western beauty norms (e.g. removing dark hair, and lightening skin color). 

Identity development

We all are constantly evolving and understanding who we are and what we value. What makes this unique for South Asians? Culture intersects with other parts of our identity, including generational status (1st, 2nd, or 3+ generation), religious beliefs, gender identity, and age which impact the way we make sense of who we are. Being born in the US makes one American, but are you still American if you primarily connect with your South Asian ethnic identity or maybe your religious identity? Or what messages does culture pass down about what it means to be female? Are you supposed to do all the cooking and cleaning? Do you have to have children? Culture intersects with identity development in complex ways.

How can you get support with what you may be feeling and experiencing?

I believe the first step in breaking the barriers, is shifting your mindset about seeking mental health support from something that means you have a “character flaw” to something that you do for your overall well-being. Taking care of your emotions and processing your emotional experiences is as important as your weekly workouts, annual physicals, or that apple a day. One way to start this process on your own is to spend 10 minutes a day engaging in mental hygiene practices (meditation, gratitude journal, positive experience journaling, writing a thought log, prayer, or deliberate time in nature). 

 

View this post on Instagram

 

A post shared by Anise Health (@anisehealth)


Alternatively, if you feel ready and have the means, try searching for a mental healthcare provider who actually understands and is aware of your cultural background and belief system. As we think of all the ways mental health can intersect with cultural context, it is helpful when your provider can hold cultural identity as being critical to your treatment. There is a clear and urgent need for therapists and interventions that use culturally-relevant treatments to drive clinical outcomes. One such resource is Anise Health, which is the first culturally-responsive digital mental health platform built by and for the Asian American community. Anise Health, co-founded by Nisha Desai and Alice Zhang, incorporates culture and intersectionality into clinician training and offers a wide range of evidence-based online services (therapy, coaching, self-guided resources) that are tailored to meet your unique needs. 

[Read Related: Truth Be Told: Breaking the Silence on a Silent Killer, Mental Illness]

If any of the concerns I discussed earlier resonated with you, consider signing up for Anise Health by filling out this short intake form; you’ll get matched to a culturally-responsive clinician within two business days. I’ve also listed a few additional resources below that aim to address mental health needs in South Asian communities.

I hope we can continue to bring the ways our South Asian culture impacts our well-being into the forefront of the conversation around mental health. By highlighting the South Asian community’s experiences, we can feel more seen and create a more accepting environment that allows us to get the help that we all deserve.

If you or someone you know is in an emergency, call The National Suicide Prevention Lifeline at 800-273-TALK (8255) or call 911 immediately.

Feature Image Courtesy: Author

By Anise Health

Dr. Ummul-Kiram Kathawalla is the writer for this article. She advises Anise’s clinical and scientific research programs, as well as … Read more ›