by Gemini Bhimani – Follow @browngirlmag
Being a woman is sexy.
But what does it mean to be sexy? Most people think of adjectives that describe physical features but I find that’s not the only thing that makes a woman sexy. Being confident, mature, witty, funny, adventurous, generous, humble, strong, calm, friendly, and brave makes a woman sexy. Standing up for what you believe in and proving negativity wrong is incredibly powerful. Not only are we incredibly beautiful and have dangerously gorgeous curves, but we have a tremendous amount of capability to do so much more.
What pains me is when I see a woman stopping herself from reaching her full potential. I learned the hard way that I cannot let anything or anyone stop me from reaching my goals and making my dreams come true. I was bullied and body shamed throughout my childhood by family, friends, and strangers. I got my first kiss at the age of 12 from a man who was in his 40’s. Very few people supported me when I started my own business. I went through depression and experienced suicidal thoughts during college. I have anxiety. And I have gotten my heart broken so many times that I can’t even keep count.
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I used to stop myself from reaching my full potential. I used to let those things bring me down and would believe that I’m not good enough for anything or anyone. I used to think that I wasn’t pretty enough to date. I used to feel that there is no hope for me. I never believed in anything positive about myself. I sincerely believed that I was a failure. Not knowing how to express myself led me into a dark place. And I had to learn on my own how to dig myself out. It definitely was not easy but I made it. I took time to get to know myself again and learned how to discover my own potential, and HOLY SHIT. I’m pretty damn awesome.
I don’t let anyone or anything knock me down now. NO WAY. And if I ever feel that I can’t get through something, I always just tell myself
If there’s anyone who can do it, it’s you.
And DAMN STRAIGHT. If I can get through all those insane times in my life, then I can get through anything. BRING IT ON. I could be mad or become petty towards those who have hurt me but honestly, what’s the point? Why make myself stressed, miserable, and downright stupid by lashing out against those people? That would be the easy and expected thing to do. Why not throw them a curve ball and give them something that they were not expecting? So, take a deep breath, smile, shrug my shoulders and show them how sexy I am.
Now I definitely am far from being where I want to be and have a lot more soul searching to do, but I am happy with where I’m going. I know what my potential is and what I need to do to surpass it. Every woman has a magnificent amount of potential. Reaching her full potential is the sexiest thing in the world. Let the haters hate. Prove to them that you won’t let anything in life bring you down. If you fall down, then jump back up and give someone a high-five. Don’t be what is expected as the norm for being a woman. Be the unexpected. Be sexy.
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Gemini Bhimani holds a bachelor’s in psychology and minored in biology from the University of Illinois at Chicago. She is working on her second degree in nursing in hopes to work with kids who have behavioral and mental challenges. She is the founder and director of Junoon Dance Company, a Wish Granter for the Make a Wish Foundation – Illinois Chapter, Chicago brand ambassador for the Learn Bhangra app and is currently working on a desi fusion clothing line called Desi Pop.