“I had a great time, can’t wait to see you again!”

It’s a phrase we have all heard after a great date. If your stars align, you may have a second, third or even fourth date. But what about when your amazing date ghosts you? You’re left wondering if and how you would confront them. NYC-based actor, writer, and director, Kabir Chopra explores these awkward dating scenarios in his newly released web series, “Swiped to Death,” starring himself and Reema Sampat. As an avid user of online dating apps in a past life with awkward stories for days, I had to know more.

BG: You are an actor, scriptwriter, director, and filmmaker. Which hat do you prefer?

Kabir: Writing! I love all three, but writing appeals to me the most. It’s where it all begins. The script is a skeleton for a film. In a way, you are playing God and create any reality you want. Writing is a beauty and a curse because you feel this burden of creating a masterpiece every time you write.

BG: Your new web series about online dating, “Swiped to Death,” just made its debut on YouTube. It stars you and Reema Sampat, who was in the last season of “Orange is the New Black.” What inspired you to create “Swiped to Death”?

Kabir: “Master of None” is what inspired me to create “Swiped to Death.” I remember watching the first season and thinking, “I could totally do something like this!” I wrote a few episodes and we did a table read at the South Asian Performing Arts festival, Tamasha. We won the award for Best Table Read. For the past two years, it’s been a ton of writing, rewriting, feedback and involvement from multiple actors.

BG: Tell us about your cast and crew!

All the actors were in class with me at James Franco’s film school, Studio 4, where I met Reema, who also managed the school. In the first episode, “Jay & Lilly,” Christina Russo plays my date, and Tim Cordell, a half British, half Indian actor from London, plays my roommate. In the second episode, “Farah & Sammy,” Reema’s date is played by Paul Michael Polsinelli, who also acted alongside James Franco in “King Cobra.”

You can find full cast bios on our website. We will be doing a crowdfunding campaign to shoot more episodes so stay tuned!

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BG: You’ve created a niche for yourself on the topic of online dating. You wrote a book, “Poke Me! A No-Nonsense Guide to Online Dating,” currently available on Amazon. What was your primary motivation to write it?

Kabir: Ha! I wrote the book four years ago as a fun way to make money on the side. I wanted to publish something online and I thought, ‘What could I write about?… Dating!’ The book started as a collection of my weird, awkward, and crappy dates. I framed it as a cheeky, sarcastic “how to” book about online dating. It was perfect timing because I published it right before Tinder blew up.

BG: Care to spill any personal dating stories?

Kabir: So I once had a girl give me a fake name. I didn’t realize this until I found out we had a mutual friend. Eventually, she confessed that she lied about her name because she had never met someone online before and was worried about her safety, which I completely understand. We’re actually still friends today!

Then, there was a gorgeous girl I went on a date with at a fancy, high-end Italian restaurant. We had a great conversation. But halfway through the evening, she told me she had a boyfriend. I was completely shocked and felt like an idiot, like “why am I here?” But I was still determined to win her over, somehow. The bill came and she offered to split it, but my pride wouldn’t let me. So, I paid for the entire bill.

BG: Ouch! Has there ever been an awkward dating story that has inspired something you have filmed or written besides “Swiped to Death”?

Kabir: Yes! I made a film titled, “Ghosted,” starring myself and actress Piyali Syam. It’s based on a date I had that went really well. We were making out all over NYC and hung out all night, but I never saw her again. I tried following up but was met with excuse after excuse and eventually she just stopped responding. The premise of “Ghosted” is, ‘What would I say to her if I saw her again?’

At the time, I was writing “Swiped to Death” and testing out ideas. “Ghosted” seemed like a perfect start.

BG: Social media has become an important tool for many essential aspects of life like dating, job searching, and business. How has social media affected your career as an actor and young man looking for love?

Kabir: Like most, I think social media is a double-edged sword. In terms of my career, social media has given me an audience. On the flip side, Facebook and Instagram can really destroy your self-esteem. As an actor, I’m happy to see a peer succeed but I think, “That’s great, but what I am doing with my life?” You only see the best part of people’s lives on social. You won’t see them struggling to pay rent.

As a person in NYC looking for love, dating apps are also a double-edged sword. It’s easy to meet people online, so dating apps take away some of the initial awkwardness. But you tend to get distracted. It’s easy to schedule a ton of dates, but pay less attention to each one. It is easy to find flaws and keep thinking the grass is greener on the other side.

BG: Lastly, what dating apps would you recommend…Asking for a friend?

Kabir: Ha! Try Hinge or Coffee Meets Bagel. These apps are less about swiping and more about communicating. Plus you can set parameters so it is easy to narrow down what you are looking for. Good luck!

[Read Related: Swipe Right: Navigating Modern Romance with Desi Tinder]

Watch the first two episodes of “Swiped to Death” on Youtube. You can visit their website to submit your awkward dating stories (option to remain anonymous is available)!

You can follow “Swiped to Death” on Instagram at @swiped_to_death, Twitter at @SwipedtoDeath and on Facebook.com/SwipedtoDeath.

Check out Kabir’s adventures on Instagram @kabirishere and on Facebook.com/KabirChopraFilm.

By Priyanka Oza

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Award-winning commercial real estate and land consultant in Arizona, Anita Verma-Lallian, is venturing into the world of entertainment with her newfound production house, Camelback Productions, making her the first South Asian female in the state to do so. Verma-Lallian is a woman used to paving her own way, and now she’s committed to doing it for future generations.

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Through her production company, she aims to contribute towards greater South Asian representation in mainstream media with a focus on storytelling that’s relevant to the community. In a conversation with Brown Girl Magazine, the real estate maven spoke about what inspired her to shift from investing in land to investing in creative dreams.

Tell us more about Camelback Productions and what your hopes are for the company?

The intention is to help communities that are not being represented in the media. As you know, there are a lot more streamers looking for content so that presents an interesting opportunity for people to tell stories that are otherwise not being told.

For us it’s important to tell these stories that aren’t being told, and tell them in the way that we want them to be told. With South Asians, for instance, the roles typically given are stereotypical. There are only four or five roles we are playing repeatedly. I want to show the South Asian community and culture in a different way. 

You come from a business and investor background. I am curious to know what catapulted your interest towards establishing a production company?

Good question. There were a few things that inspired my interest. I was looking to diversify the different opportunities we offered our investors. We’ve done a lot of real estate, so we were overall looking for different investment opportunities.  And then, at the time when I started exploring this, the real estate market was in this wait-and-see for many people. 

Everyone was sitting on the sidelines waiting to see what happens next. There was a slowdown at the end of 2022 which is when I started looking into this more. Film seemed like it was kind of recession-proof and not really tied to what’s happening in the economy, which I thought was refreshing and exciting.

Also, overall, I observed what was happening in the industry with there being a push to see more South Asians in the media. The timing felt right, and I think we’re moving in the right direction.

 

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What kind of content are you looking to create?

Good stories and good quality scripts. We are looking at all types of content — movies, docu-series, comedy shows, and reality shows. We’re open to anything that has a good message. 

On a personal level, what hits home for you with this production company?

Growing up I always loved film and TV. We watched a lot of Bollywood movies because that’s what we related to and I always loved that. But I did feel there wasn’t a lot of representation of people that looked like me. Being able to change that — especially after having kids, and a daughter who wants to go into film — is important for. It’s a contribution for future generations. It’s important to me that as they grow up, they see people that look just like them.  

Is there a significance to the name Camelback?

Yes! Camelback Mountain is a very iconic mountain in Phoenix. It’s one of the most famous hikes we have here and a relatively challenging one.

The significance is being able to overcome challenges and barriers. I have a nice view of Camelback Mountain and it’s something I look at every day, when I’m stressed and overwhelmed. It has a very calming and grounding presence.

To me the mountains signify being grounded and not being able to be moved by external factors. That’s what I want this production company to be!

 

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What would you advise people interested in entering the entertainment industry?

The best advice I would give someone is to align yourself with people that you know are experts in the industry; that have a good track record. Learn from as many people as you can. I learn as much as I can, talk to as many people as I can, and I study different things to understand what was and wasn’t successful.

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Born in the US and raised in New Zealand, actor Anya Banerjee made her television debut, this past Sunday, in season 10 of NBC’s “The Blacklist.” She is seen playing the character of Siya Malik, daughter of former task force member Meera Malik who met with an untimely death in season one.

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An MI6 agent, Malik is hoping to learn more about her mother and the work she did with Raymond Reddington. Her character is a sharp, inventive, fearless spy with a knack for spotting what motivates others. Even though this is her first-ever television role, one can see how deeply involved Banerjee is in the character, pushing you to connect back the dots to the history her character comes with. In an interview with Brown Girl Magazine, Banerjee talks more about her journey into acting, what drew her to the role of Siya and what should the audience expect from the 10th and final season of the show:

People, in general, are very influenced by the content they consume. Was there a specific film, play, or television series that got you interested in acting?

As the first in my family to be raised in “the West,” just being in the world involved performing some kind of identity. Film and TV acted as a third parent in that regard. I’m the first actor in my family, but have wanted to do this since before I can remember. Watching “Bend It Like Beckham” when I was in primary school showed me there was a place for South Asian female leads in Hollywood. I’ve also always been drawn to media with some element of the fantastical. I loved Baz Lurhmann’s “Moulin Rouge” because it brought the theatricality of the stage to the screen in a spectacular way. I remember being tickled by the cultural fusion in the film. It reflected my own sense of being at the intersection of various cultures and the appeal of escaping into a made-up world.

Were you a part of any productions in school or in college that influenced you?

I did a lot of singing and dancing as a kid; Indian dance-dramas at Durga Puja and yearly ballet recitals. We did musicals and Shakespeare productions at secondary school and that’s also when I started working in Auckland’s professional theatre scene.

 

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What were some of your favorite roles while pursuing the acting program at Columbia University and how did they prepare you for your television debut?

Casting director James Calleri headed the acting MFA program at Columbia when I was there and his on-camera classes really set us up for success in TV. We also had the tremendous good fortune of being Ron Van Lieu’s first cohort at Columbia. The master acting teacher directed our thesis production of “Where Do We Live?” by Christopher Shinn. I played Lily, a British party girl who has to be physically and emotionally vulnerable in the play. With the help of movement coach Sita Mani and intimacy co-ordinator Alicia Rodis, I gained the confidence to take more risks in my acting. Now I’m playing a very different Brit with a totally different background and disposition but I’m using many of  the same tools I used as Lily to feel grounded as Siya.

How would you describe “The Blacklist” to people wanting to learn more about the show?

Action-packed, full of intrigue, and endlessly entertaining. There’s a reason this show has been killing it for a decade and that’s the high caliber of the cast and crew, as well as the inventive and topical writing that keeps fans coming back for more. Audience members who’ve watched from the beginning will appreciate the full circle moments that my character ushers in — I play the daughter of Meera Malik, late CIA agent from season one so my storyline is a bit of a throwback. But new viewers can use me as an access point into the world of “The Blacklist” as Siya uncovers it, bit by bit, as a newcomer herself.

How did you prepare for the role of Siya Malik and how similar are you in real life to the character you’re playing on screen?

Some of the first things I had to learn on the job were stunts and how to operate a firearm. You’ll be seeing a lot of Siya kicking butt. The gun stuff was entirely new for me but I took to it very quickly and my background as a dancer helped with the fight scenes. Something I identify with in Siya is her resilience. She’s turned the tragedy of her mother’s death into the fuel that led to her own career as an MI6 agent, overcoming obstacles and others’ underestimation of her. That’s the kind of fire inside that  I really admire and hope to practice in my own life.

 

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Are there certain roles you feel suit you better?

I love characters with complex inner worlds — ones who are deeply flawed and may even be outcast from society, but who rise above the odds to carve out space for themselves and the ones they love.

Do you feel South Asians are still pigeonholed into certain roles or has it gotten better?

I think things are a lot better than what I grew up seeing in the early 2000s. “Sound of Metal,” for example, is one of my favorite movies because Riz Ahmed’s riveting performance has little to do with him being South Asian and everything to do with his commitment to an expertly crafted role.

Is there a dream role you would want to play?

On stage, someone as volatile as Emma from Duncan Macmillian’s “People Places & Things.” On screen, someone as funny as Amina in “We Are Lady Parts” or as brave as the title character in “Kimi.”

You have worked with many talented individuals. Is there anyone still on your list you would want to work with in terms of directors, actors, actresses, and others?

Parminder Nagra, obviously! As a Kiwi, it would be a dream come true to work with Jane Campion or Taika Waititi. I’m most excited to form meaningful relationships with artists daring enough to challenge the status quo.

You describe yourself as a “Kiwi-Bengali in the Big City.” How have you felt as an Indian American, raised in New Zealand, coming into the acting world?

There’s been a lot of juggling aspects of my triangular identity. A lot of the times in this industry people want you to be just one thing, or maybe two, but three’s pushing it! The reality is that we live in a globalized world. We have to make room for cultural nuance in the media. So maybe I’ll lean into my American side today, turn up the Kiwi tomorrow, and speak Bengali with my Indian parents on the phone. All are valid, authentic expressions of myself and reflections of the real world.

[Read Related: Manish Dayal on ‘The Resident’ & Telling Stories During and About a Pandemic]

 

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What advice would you give to your younger self?

It’s okay to be a chameleon — in fact it’s a gift. Adapting aspects of your personality and identity to different circumstances is part of being a multicultural artist.

What is something not many people know about you?

I can be a little introverted and have struggled with social anxiety since I was a teenager. I had a bit of an emo phase then, but have since learned to take life less seriously and it’s made me a lot happier. My loved ones nurture and embrace the goofball in me. If you get to know me, I might let you see my inner clown!

Lastly, what do you hope individuals take away from this interview?

Take pride in your difference and embrace the outsider in you. It’s your superpower. There’s no one right way to be a Brown Girl so get out there and be whoever you want to be!

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“After so Long” is a poetry film created for Simha’s EP, which is streaming on Spotify, Apple Music and Amazon Music. The poem was collaboratively written by Simha, a U.S. native, and Jae, who is based in India, during the 2020 lockdown. “After so Long” was recited by Simha and their parents. In 2022, I directed and produced the film through my studio, Star Hopper. “After so Long” premiered on Nowness Asia in March 2022.

By Varsha Panikar

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