Vishal Punjabi on how he Became ‘The Wedding Filmer’

As soon as “Peer Vi Tu” starts playing on my Spotify shuffle, I am instantly reminded of when I watched Anushka Sharma walk toward Virat Kohli with Italy’s scenic villa as the backdrop. I am sure we all agree that every wedding has a song that is reminiscent of the time we had on the dance floor, during the first dance, or the multiple dance practices before the main event. The maestro behind setting the stage full of raw emotions, personable tunes, and picturesque snippets as part of his wedding films, Vishal Punjabi, is coined as India’s Wedding Filmer.

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If you are a bride or groom-to-be, an aspiring filmmaker, or just love all things weddings, read on to learn more about Punjabi’s journey and beyond.

Share a little about your background! How did you start your career with Shah Rukh Khan?

I used to work for a company on website designing which got a few awards back in London (home). Shah Rukh Khan, here in India, was on a hunt for designers for his own company’s website and he somehow found me. He called me asking me to join. I thought it was a joke and hung up. Thank God he called me back and that’s how I made it to India.


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What prompted you to start wedding filmmaking?

After working in Bollywood for 10 years, I felt myself getting lost. Shah Rukh [Khan] was making a film called Ra.One. And I wanted to make documentaries for a bit. In between, I took a two-year sabbatical [from] Bollywood to find myself again. I started making documentaries and enjoyed the process. So, when I came back to India I wanted to film those. But, Shah Rukh was making such a big film — Ra.One — at that time. And, I actually got married at that time. [Soon after] I quit my job after working for 10 years.

When I got married, because I just quit my job, I couldn’t afford a videographer. So, I told myself, ‘Oh! I wanted to make a documentary, which is non-fiction! Let me start with a wedding film!’ I made my film as a present to my wife as an idea that I wanted to experiment with and I really enjoyed making and editing it. Of course, since it was my own wedding, I enjoyed it even more! Then I realized while doing this, that there is TOO much joy in this, I can do this forever. So, I started doing wedding films and was coined The Wedding Filmer. Ta-da!

What is Vishal Punjabi’s favorite wedding moment?

Usually, the expression on the bride and groom’s faces when the wedding is done and he’s finished putting the sindoor in her hair. The expression of relief that they are finally together is quite sublime. You see that again during the first dance [at] the reception because that’s when they actually celebrate the fact that they are together. The expressions are priceless…the best laughs, the best smiles, the best twinkle in their eyes at that moment.


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Weddings are an integral part of South Asian culture. Do you think the same? Why or why not?

Yes, there are individuals who save money their whole life to spend on their wedding. Instead, many in the West would put it in a college fund or buy a home. In India, we spend it on weddings, which is quite epic. I think it is changing now [though]. People who are getting married in this century are feeling more like taking care of expenses themselves, having weddings on their own, spending on things and people that matter to them — you know, not inviting people that they don’t meet very regularly. I think COVID also helped change that perspective. Since COVID, wedding sizes have reduced. A lot of couples are not inviting extended family and want to keep it tight-knit to keep everyone safe. So, yeah, COVID has brought a lot of change in that perspective. And, it’s not a bad thing. It’s a good thing. Weddings will always be important. Birth, we have no control over. Death we definitely have no control over. The one thing that we have control over during our metamorphosis is our wedding. That’s why we strive to make our weddings so special. Normal people do not have Filmfare awards, etc. The wedding day is the day they get to celebrate life, their achievements, all their dreams, their relationships — all their wishes come together during this special time. It is an excuse for all of us to celebrate and party. And, why not? Who wouldn’t want this!? Isn’t that what the world cup is all about?

What’s the backbone of a wedding film?

The music we create! Music is the core element because that’s how we feel. When we hear so much at a wedding, it’s nice to feel that [music] without the cheese and familiarity of a Bollywood song. That’s why we create music for our films, it makes them unique and it gives them a structure and a backbone. [The music] allows it [the film] to flow the same way your memories would because you can actually feel better when you watch a memory and go through it [as you lived the memory]. We strive for that very feeling.


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On that note, I adore the way you not only capture the true essence of a wedding but also provide an endearing soundtrack that is connected to the couple. How does that process work?

I keep my ears open at a wedding, not just my eyes. So it’s very important to hear what plays at a wedding. What kind of songs people sang at the wedding, what did people dance to, and which song did the bride enter to? I also pay attention to the cultures represented at the wedding. Was it a Sikh wedding, or a Muslim wedding? Were there duas included, were they lyrical? What kind of artists came and performed? That will give you a good sense of what kind of music sense I am catering to. And then I start thinking about the bride and groom and about what they say and why they want to say what they say. What is the purpose of the film? Is it for them, for their future children, for their parents, or is it for society? So, I have to think about all of these perspectives and take them into consideration and then start creating a music track. This is why I think my music works for weddings because there is a process that is very real, very authentic, and that is basic to who we are. That’s how our films become [what they are].

What’s your take on destination weddings?

No one wants to [get married] in boring places. Everyone wants to [get married] somewhere beautiful and when COVID hit, there was a lot of struggle for people getting married. So, they got married at home. But now that borders are opening and countries are investing back into the hospitality sector, [it] is an opportunity for all to thrive. Thailand used to be a prime location for Indian weddings, so I think that is picking up again. It’s what the world needs. Some love being spread around the world. It’s nice when people travel for weddings. Airport anxiety and all of that kind of goes away when you are thinking about going somewhere with people for a fun purpose. I just came back from a wedding in Valencia and I think it was stunning. For people who can afford it, why not celebrate and have a long big holiday with the people you love? It’s the best way to celebrate it.

Recipe for your idea of a perfect event?

The perfect event for me would be in the evening, during the sunset. There is beautiful light and no need to have a generator and all that jazz. I think live music plays an important factor in putting on a perfect event. So, getting an artist that truly connects to you and syncs with you [so] your loved ones can enjoy that process as well. I think as Indians we love our drinks, so it’ll be nice to have a bar and a bartender who makes delicious booze that is not too strong. People should really enjoy [themselves] and have a good time while they are there. And, [of course], really good food. That would really make the world go round. Then, a small little area to dance where everyone can go a little crazy for the night to take a turn. And, I think that would be a perfect event, a night where you and your friends/family can enjoy what’s happening.


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‘Rocky Aur Rani Kii Prem Kahaani’: A Perfect K Jo Showcase Celebrating the Filmmaker’s 25 Years in Cinema

Rocky Aur Rani Ki Prem Kahani

It’s always a flamboyant affair of colour, emotions and grandeur when Karan Johar directs a film, and his latest blockbuster “Rocky Aur Rani Ki Prem Kahani” is as K Jo as it gets. After recently being recognised at the British House of Parliament for 25 years as a filmmaker, Johar is back to doing what he does best — bringing together families and star-crossed lovers, but this time with a modern touch. He makes a decent attempt at showcasing progressive ideals and feminist issues while taking us on this family-friendly ride.

“Rocky Aur Rani Kii Prem Kahaani” is a larger-than-life film revolving around the love story of a boisterous Rocky (Ranveer Singh) from a wealthy Delhi family, and Rani (Alia Bhatt), a sharp journalist from a progressive Bengali household. And of course, despite belonging to completely different backgrounds and lives, our protagonists, in true Bollywood fashion, fall hopelessly in love through a string of slow-motion gazes, warm embraces and some truly breath-taking song sequences in Kashmir’s snowy mountains. They are then forced to face their opposing families which brings along the family drama in the second half of the film.

The plot is not the film’s strongest point — there’s no real surprise about what’s going to happen next, and yet the film doesn’t fail to keep audiences engaged and pack an emotional punch. This is down to its strong acting, witty dialogues and K Jo’s classic, beautiful cinematography.

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Ranveer Singh sinks into the skin of his character with ease – not only does he make the hall burst into laughter with the help of perfectly-timed gags but he pulls off those dreamy gazes ,expected in K Jo’s heroes, to evoke that typical, fuzzy-feeling kind of Bollywood romance. Alia Bhatt’s intelligent and undefeated character is no less a pleasure to watch on screen — not only does she look breath-taking in every shot but her feminist dialogues earn claps and cheers from the audience as she brings a progressive touch to this family drama.

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Albeit, while Bhatt’s dialogues do their best to steer this film to the reformist drama it hopes to be, some of Singh’s gags and monologues on cancel culture bring out bumps in the road. The film could have done better to reinforce its points on feminism and racism without using the groups it tries to support as the butt of jokes.

There is also a case to be made about how long these Punjabi and Bengali stereotypes can go on with often gawkish displays of Ranveer’s ‘dilwala-from-Delhi’ character among the overly-polished English from Rani’s Bengali family. But it is with the expertise of the supporting cast, that the film is able to get away with it. Jaya Bachchan in particular is as classy as ever on screen; the stern Dadi Ji holds her ground between the two lovers, while Dada Ji Dharmendra,  and Thakuma Shabana Azmi, tug at our heartstrings showing that love truly is for all ages.

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Saving the best to last, it is the film’s cinematography that makes the strongest case for audiences to flock to the cinema. The soul-stirring songs steal the show with their extravagant sets and powerful dance performances that treat the audiences to the much-awaited cinematic experience of a K Jo film. While audiences may already be familiar with the viral songs, “What Jhumka?” and “Tum Kya Mile“, it was the family-defying fight for love in “Dhindhora Baje Re” that really gave me goosebumps.

Overall, the film does exactly what it says on the tin and is a family entertainer with something for everyone. It will make you laugh, cry, and cringe at times, but nothing leaves you feeling as romantic as some old school Bollywood with a mix of new school humour, in true K Jo form.

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‘The Romantics’: Revisiting the Legacy and Grandeur of Yash Chopra With Filmmaker Smriti Mundhra

The Romantics

If you are a South Asian, born in the ’80s or the early ’90s, chances are your ideas of love and romance are heavily influenced by Hindi films — that first gaze, the secret love notes, that accidental meeting somewhere in Europe, over-the-top gestures and dancing around trees. While reality may have been far from what was promised on reel, you still can’t stop pining over a hopeless romantic, with chocolate boy looks, chasing you across the earth and many universes; in the life here and the ones after. Somewhere deep down, you still dream of that possibility despite your husband sitting and sipping his morning coffee right next to you. And much of the credit for weaving this dreamland, that we can’t resist happily sliding into, goes to the legendary Yash Chopra. Award-winning filmmaker Smriti Mundhra’s docu-series, “The Romantics,” that released on Netflix on February 14, chronicles Chopra’s prolific career; offering an illuminating look into the highs and lows of his journey, his unblemished vision for Hindi cinema and sheer love for filmmaking. 

I wanted to look at Indian cinema through the lens of it being a major contributor to the global cinema canon and Yash Chopra seemed like the perfect lens to explore that because of the longevity of his career and the fact that he had worked across so many different genres. His films, for so many of us, defined what Hindi cinema is.

— Smriti Mundhra

As “The Romantics” unveils, in a mere episode — a challenging feat in itself — Chopra did experiment with multiple genres as a budding filmmaker, initially under the shadows of his elder brother B.R. Chopra. From the religiously sensitive “Dharamputra” and the trendsetting “Waqt” to the action-packed and iconic “Deewaar.” It wasn’t until later on in his career that he set a precedent for a Hindi film having a wholly romantic narrative; though “Waqt” did offer the perfect glimpse into what would go on to become Chopra’s cinematic imprint. And then came “Chandni” which ushered in a new era for Hindi cinema; defying the formulaic approach to box office success and making love stories the golden goose.

In the words of more than 30 famous faces, a host of archival videos and interviews, and personal anecdotes, audiences get an extensive insight into the life and career of Yash Chopra and the evolution of his vision through the business acumen and genius of his polar opposite son and a famous recluse, Aditya Chopra. “The Romantics” is not a fancy portrait of a legendary filmmaker but an exploration of what goes into making a successful film family and a path-breaking production house. As viewers, we not only get a peek into the making of a fantasy creator but also learn of the many failures, hurdles and uncertainties that the business of filmmaking comes packaged in, the impact of socio-political shifts on the kind of content being produced and demanded, and just how much control we have as an audience over the fate of the film and the filmmaker.

For both the uninitiated and fanatics, there are some interesting revelations like Shah Rukh Khan’s lifelong desire to become an action hero as opposed to a romantic one and the creative conflict between Aditya Chopra and his father Yash Chopra on the sets of “Dilwale Dulhania Le Jaayenge” — a project that, surprisingly, did not seem too promising to the latter. Mundhra penetrates deep into the family’s history and industry relationships evoking some really candid conversations; almost as if these celebs were eagerly waiting for their moment to speak. With one appraising interview after the other, it’s a panegyric that does border on being a tad tedious but there is enough depth and fodder in there to keep one hooked. Kudos to Mundhra for managing to achieve cohesion despite there being more than enough material to chew on. In the process of bringing this project to life, Mundhra also ends up achieving a number of milestones: one that the series features the last of actor Rishi Kapoor’s interviews and two, it brings Aditya Chopra, who, it appears, can talk a blue streak contrary to popular belief, to the front of the camera after almost two decades. The moment when he puts the nepotism debate to rest by referring to his brother’s catastrophic attempt at acting is quite the show-stealer.


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At some point during the four-episode series, you might question if it’s fair to credit the Yash Raj family for being the only real changemakers of the Hindi film industry and for picking up the baton to get Hindi cinema the global recognition that it has. But then there is no denying the Chopra clan’s body of work, their ability to understand what pleases the crowd and their commitment towards growth and progress amidst changing times and technology — Yash Raj Studios is in fact the only privately held and one of the biggest, state-of-the-art film studios in India. Chopra’s career and legacy are in no way under-lit that Mundhra can claim to throw new light on with “The Romantics.” But what she really has on offer here are sheer nostalgia, some fascinating discoveries and an ode to a cinephile and his art with a bit of fan service.

In an interview with Brown Girl Magazine, Mundhra discusses why it was so important for Chopra to be the subject of her docu-series, her own learnings during the series’ research and creative process and her accomplishment of getting Aditya Chopra to talk, and that too, at length.

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‘Thank You For Coming’ Unapologetically Begs the Answer to a Very Important Question

It’s never a dull moment with your girl gang; some shots and conversations about sex, right? If you agree, you’re in for a treat with Karan Boolani’s directorial venture, “Thank You For Coming,” which had its world premiere at the 48th annual Toronto International Film Festival. This coming-of-age story unapologetically begs the answer to a very important question: Why should women be left high and dry in bed?


Kanika Kapoor (Bhumi Pednekar) is a successful, 32-year-old, Delhi food blogger who makes a huge revelation on her 30th birthday: She’s never experienced an orgasm. This dirty little secret (no pun intended!) has now become detrimental to her self-esteem. She feels so down and out that she even accepts the proposal of a very boring suitor, Jeevan-ji (Pradhuman Singh Mall).

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Thank You For Coming

But, it’s not like she hasn’t tried. Kanika’s been a monogamist since her teenage years, starting with puppy love in high school — unfortunately, their sexual endeavors coined her as “thandi” (cold) by her first boyfriend — all the way to dating in her adulthood. But, regardless of how great any relationship was, nobody had her achieve the big O. All until the night of her engagement with Jeevan, when the drunk bride-to-be leaves the party for her hotel room and gets into bed. What follows is her very first orgasm. Ghungroo, finally, tute gaye! But, with whom?

The morning after, an initially-satisfied Kanika works herself into a frenzy of confusion and frustration as she makes her way through the list of potential men who could’ve been in her room the night before.

Thank You For Coming

Was it one of her exes? She’d simply invited them to come to wish her well.

Was it her fiance?

Or, God forbid, was it actually the rabdi-wala (ice cream man)?

Boolani takes a straight-forward and on-the-nose approach to drive the point home. There are no cutting corners, no mincing words, and no hovering over “taboo topics.” The dialogue is raunchy, the characters are horny, and no one is apologetic. It’s important for a film like “Thank You For Coming” to be so in-your-face because the subject of women achieving orgasms can’t really be presented in any other way. Anything more conservative in the narrative would feel like the makers are being mindful of addressing something prohibited. And there is no room for taboos here.

But, there is room for a more open conversation on the reasons why many women feel the need to suppress their sexual needs in bed; how generally, women have been brought up to be the more desirable gender and hence not cross certain boundaries that would make them appear too brash. The fight for the right of female pleasure would have been a little more effective if the modesty around the topic was addressed. But, that doesn’t mean that the point is remiss.

The plot moves swiftly along, never lulling too long over everything that seems to be going wrong in Kanika’s life. “Thank You For Coming” is full of all the right tropes that belong in a comedic, masala film, too; the direction very seamlessly takes classic fixings like the abhorrent admirer (enter Jeevan-ji) and effectively plugs them into this contemporary feature that will remain perpetually relevant.

Thank You For Coming

And now, let’s come to the star of the show: the well-rounded characters.

Producer Rhea Kapoor has mastered the formula of a good chick flick and her casting is the magic touch. She’s got a knack for bringing together the right actors — cue, “Veere Di Wedding.” So, just when we think that it doesn’t get better than the veere, Kapoor surprises us with a refreshing trio — they’re modern, they’re rebellious, and they say it like it is. Thank you, Dolly Singh (Pallavi Khanna) and Shibani Bedi (Tina Das) for being the yin to Kanika’s yang — and for the bag full of sex toys your homegirl oh-so needed!

To complete Kanika’s story, we have her single mother, Miss. Kapoor, brilliantly portrayed by Natasha Rastogi. She is the face of a headstrong and self-assured matriarch and a symbol of the modern-day Indian woman. Rastogi’s character exemplifies the fact that with access to education, and a stable career, women do not need to mold their lives around men.

I love the fact that Miss. Kapoor is almost villainized by her own mother (played by Dolly Ahluwalia) in the film because she had a child out of wedlock in her yesteryears, she chooses to remain single, and she brings her boyfriends around the house to hang out with. But, there’s a point to be made here. The fact that Kanika’s mother is being antagonized just highlights that she is challenging the norms and pushing the envelope for what is socially acceptable for women. Miss. Kapoor definitely deserves an honorable mention.

Pednekar’s unexpected yet impeccable comic timing is the highlight of the entire film. Everything from being a damsel in sexual distress to a woman who unabashedly chases self-pleasure, Pednekar puts on a genuinely entertaining act for the audience. From being portrayed as a high-schooler to the 32-year-old, independent woman, Pednekar is fit for each role. Her naivety as a teen wins you over, as does her gusto as a full-blown adult with a broken ankle and some very messy relationships. This also speaks volumes about the versatility of her looks.

And, of course, Pednekar is not new to films that address social topics, but “Thank You For Coming” challenges her to balance Kanika’s droll with the responsibility of delivering a very important message to the viewers. Mission accomplished, Ms. Pednekar!

Thank You For Coming

“Thank You For Coming” is a through-and-through entertainer. Everything from the casting — a huge shout out to the rest of the supporting cast including Anil Kapoor, Shehnaaz Gill, Karan Kundra, Kusha Kapila, Gautmik, and Sushant Divkigar, without whom this roller coaster would have lacked the thrills — to the homey locations and even the glitz and glamor in the song sequences, they’re all perfect pieces to help drive home a powerful message: Smash patriarchy!

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