by Anonymous

Attention, South Asian sisters! We have a gifted one among us, and she must be celebrated.

Rupi Kaur is a twenty-three-year-old, Indian woman living in Ontario, Canada. She recently published her collection of poems, “Milk and Honey.” Divided into four chapters, “the hurting,” “the loving,” “the breaking,” and “the healing,” this book explores the raw reality of being a woman in this world. Kaur shares her insight on a range of topics, from being in love to being let down.

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I believe every woman should read Kaur’s book, but I especially believe South Asian women should own a copy.

Here’s why:

Kaur isn’t afraid to speak on those topics that are often taboo in our culture: the advantage that men take of women, the truth behind falling in love, the pain that surrounds a breakup, and the strength behind femininity. She is a voice of our generation who isn’t afraid to speak up and speak out about topics that are tough to talk about. Her book leaves nothing unsaid; it is a brutal truth that depicts the realities of being a woman.

Here is an excerpt from her book:

Did you think i was a city big enough for a weekend getaway?
I am the town surrounding it, the one you’ve never heard of but always pass through
There are no neon lights here, no skyscrapers or statues
but there is thunder, for I make bridges tremble
I am not street meat, I am homemade jam thick enough to cut the sweetest thing your lips will touch
I am not police sirens, I am the crackle in a fireplace
I’d burn you and you wouldn’t take your eyes off me
I am not a hotel room, i am home
I am not the whiskey you want. I’m the water you need
Don’t come here with expectations and try to make a vacation out of me (page 97)

This poem is a testament to a woman’s self-worth, especially when she is in a relationship. Kaur demands recognition of her power as a woman- as we all should.

By reading her book and spreading her message, we are supporting a woman similar to ourselves. We are empowering a woman who is speaking up for us. We are building each other up, rather than tearing each other down, the way society pushes women to do too often.

Let us celebrate Rupi Kaur and celebrate womanhood.

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“Confessions to a Moonless Sky” is a meditation on the new moon and guilt. I wrote it when I was living in Dallas and was driving back from a dusk prayer. The new moon terrified me on that drive. I was diseased by the knowledge that my partner, at the time, had seen the worst parts of me. There’s immense shame in this piece—it seized my self-image. If the moon could become brand new, then I could start over.

I often ponder on the moon’s reflective nature and pairs of eyes. I’m hyper-fixated on how I am seen by others. Unfortunately, the brilliance of seeing your reflection in another person leads to negativity. After all, those who are too keen on their own reflection are the same people who suffer from it. It is possible to use shame to fuel one’s retribution and personal growth, without becoming consumed by it.

We can look to Shah Rukh Khan succumbing to alcoholism in his own sorrow and then later imbibing his sadness in Chandramukhi. “Confessions to a Moonless Sky” is a lesson for us: Don’t be Shah Rukh Khan in Devdas, instead embody pre-incarnation Shah Rukh Khan in Om Shanti Om!

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Confessions to a Moonless Sky

Sometimes when the moon abandons the sky, I wonder if I drove her away.

If she comes back, will she be the same? How I wish she would come back new, truly new! That way she’d have no memory of the sin I’ve confessed to her. You noxious insect. Sin-loving, ego-imbibing pest. You are no monster, for at least a monster has ideology, it sins with purpose. You sin just to chase ignominy.

But the moon won’t say that, she never does. She’ll just leave the sky and return days later, slowly. And I’ll wonder if she’s new, perhaps she won’t remember my past confessions. What does it matter? Were the moon replaced with one from a different god, I’d drive her away, too.

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NAKED: The Honest Musings of 2 Brown Women was born in the autumn of 2018, when Mimi Mutesa and Selvi M. Bunce began sharing their poetry collections. It was scary, beautiful, and terrifying when they decided to trust each other with their most intimate thoughts. Not only did they feel relieved after doing so, but Selvi and Mimi also felt more seen as women of color. They embarked on their publication journey, so others may feel as seen as they did on that fateful autumn.

“Ingrown Hair” deals with the themes of societal and family pressures that are reflected throughout NAKED. Mimi and Selvi have always written for themselves. They see poetry as an outlet, and their poems exemplify their personal frustration and vulnerability. “Ingrown Hair” speaks to Selvi’s experience with the societal pressures of South Asian women, such as getting married, being a good wife, becoming a good mother, and leading a certain kind of life.

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Ingrown Hair

There is something strange beneath my skin
telling me to build a house,
make a home,
mother children.
I am not sure how to reconcile it.
My mother was strong
and a mother after all.
My philosophy has been to spend my time
on myself and the world.
I have always thought
I could simply address the thing under my skin
when it finally crawled out.
But when my family starts guessing
who will get married first, and my father
has been saving wedding money for years,
I begin to wonder
if I will have to pluck it out.

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You can purchase your copy of NAKED on Amazon, Barnes & Noble, Waterstones, Bookshop, and The Black Spring Press Group. Follow Selvi on Twitter and Instagram. Don’t forget to check out her project, Brown & Brazen.

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